We’ve all experienced it, but there’s no commercial for the bipolar person’s sexual dysfunction. A common side effect of the medications that are routinely prescribed is a lack of libido, desire or ability to perform sexully. Add in the depression and dysthymia and your spouse who married you when you were manic and hypomanic is sorely disappointed in the bedroom. Not to mention your own frustration, because even if you want to do “it”, anorgasmia strikes.
Anorgasmia noun; inability to experience sexual orgasm.
That’s it, half a sentence in the dictionary. For something so complex I imagined there’d be more.
And that’s only a problem if you actually feel like trying. When in a depressive episode and it may feel more like a violation, I feel like an understanding spouse would only press the issue ever so slightly, testing the waters you might say. For the benefit of said understanding spouse, it’s not unreasonable that when dysthymic and merely lacking libido, the bipolar spouse could “see to the needs” and maybe even make an effort to seem enthusiastic for their partner. Marriage being a partnership and all, a little inconvenience on your part can go a long way towards a happy marriage.
In the process of recovery and the bipolar journey on top, it is easy to become so involved in yourself and your needs that your spouse gets left to the wayside. Sharing this journey can relieve much of the pressure and help to keep you grounded when otherwise the swirling vortex of misinformation coming from your own brain could become too much to bear.